Couples Counselling in Calgary
You’re not really fighting
about the dishes.
The arguments could be about anything: Money, exes, parenting, sex.
But underneath, you may be feeling something very painful: Unheard, unimportant, alone, or disconnected from the person you love.
Maybe one of you reaches for connection while the other pulls away. Maybe you both become defensive, angry, or shut down. You have the same arguments over and over, and no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to break the pattern.
You may be caught in a vicious cycle.
This is the focus of the type of couples therapy I provide, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). Rather than simply teaching communication skills, I help couples understand the emotional needs and patterns underneath their conflict. By changing the cycle, you can begin to create a relationship that feels safer and more connected.
Couples often come to therapy when they've tried to fix things on their own and aren't getting anywhere.
They feel like roommates rather than partners. They’re struggling with communication, intimacy, trust, or a major relationship rupture. Or perhaps they’re simply noticing that the distance between them is growing and they don't know how to stop it.
You don't have to be on the verge of separation to come to couples therapy.
Sometimes you simply know:
“We love each other, but we don't know how to do this anymore.”
That's a good reason to reach out.
When you feel stuck
The cycle is the problem
In therapy, we look beneath the arguments to understand what's really happening between you.
The criticism may be a protest against feeling unimportant. The withdrawal may be an attempt to protect yourself from feeling overwhelmed or inadequate. The anger may be covering hurt, fear, or a longing to feel close again.
Rather than deciding who's right or wrong, we'll work together to understand the cycle you're caught in and create new ways of responding to each other.
What working with me is like
Couples therapy can be vulnerable. There may be years of hurt, disappointment, and misunderstanding sitting underneath the issue that brings you in.
My role isn't to take sides or decide who's right. It's to help both of you feel heard, understand what's happening in your relationship, and make meaningful changes together.
I believe therapy should be honest, compassionate, and grounded in reality. I'm not here to sell you an idealized version of your relationship. I'm here to help you understand it—and decide where you want to go from here.
Not sure if we’re a good fit?
You don't need to know exactly what's wrong—or whether your relationship can be saved—before reaching out.
I offer a free 30-minute introductory session where we can talk about what's happening, what you're hoping will change, and whether my approach feels right for you.
Absolutely no commitment required.
A welcoming space for your relationship
I welcome couples of all genders and sexual orientations and am LGBTQ+ affirming. I currently work with couples in a dyadic relationship (two partners).
Sessions are available in Calgary and online.
60 minutes — $220
A traditional therapy hour for couples who prefer a shorter session.
90 minutes — $300
A longer session that can give couples more room to slow down, work through difficult conversations, and explore what's happening beneath the surface without feeling rushed.
Some extended health benefits may cover psychological services. I provide the documentation you'll need to submit sessions to your insurance provider. I do not currently offer direct billing.